Private stepmom support. Off social media. Without judgment.
Stop auditioning for belonging. Start feeling at home in your own home.
The Stepmom Side Community is a private place to say the things you cannot say anywhere else, get grounded support for the things actually happening in your house, and figure out your next step with stepmoms who truly get it.
You’ve never done this before, and you do not have to figure it out alone or perform your way into belonging.
Starting at $15.99/month • Private and off social media • Cancel anytime
You are not bad at this. You are carrying a role no one prepared you for.
Of course you’re tired. You are trying to build a life inside a family system with history, loyalties, routines, relationships, and decisions that existed before you arrived. Then everyone expects you to love naturally, adapt gracefully, and somehow never have a complicated feeling about any of it. Cute.
You may feel these:
You feel like a guest in your home.
You rehearse conversations with your partner because you are afraid honesty will sound like criticism of the kids.
The ex, the schedule, or the latest change affects your house more than you want it to.
You overfunction to prove you belong, then feel resentful that no one notices how much you carry.
You feel ashamed of thoughts that other people would not understand.
You do not need to try harder to earn your place. You need a place where you can exhale, get honest, and sort out what happens next.
Generic stepmom advice cannot solve a specific situation.
You do not need another post telling you to “just communicate.” You need help deciding what is actually yours to address, what belongs to your partner, where a boundary may help, and what you can stop carrying.
Bring the real situation
Ask the awkward question, share the spiraling thought, or explain what happened at home.
Get clarity without judgment
Hear from stepmoms who understand the dynamics and get Alicia’s grounded coaching perspective.
Take one useful next step
Leave with clearer language, a boundary to consider, a conversation to have, or permission to let something go.
Your saved seat for the hard days, the tiny wins, and everything in between.
This is more than a place to vent. It is ongoing support that helps you feel seen first, and then decide what will actually help.
INTRODUCING...
The Stepmom Side Community
The place for Stepmoms: a private community OFF OF SOCIAL MEDIA and it’s the community you’ve been craving. You’ll be shocked to know how many Stepmoms have the same struggles and feel the same way as you.
INSIDE YOU WILL GAIN ACCESS TO:
A Community
Immediate support:
Within our private community, you can openly discuss your stepmom challenges without fear of judgment or vulnerability.
Post when something happens, ask for perspective, learn from other stepmoms, or simply read along until you feel ready to share.
Office Hours
Confidentiality is key:
Office Hours are where you can chat with Alicia 1:1 on a Zoom call. They are held weekly (Wednesdays), are completely private, and not recorded.
Bring the stressor taking up all your brain space and get a focused mini coaching from Alicia. Long story short: bring the stressor, leave with an action plan.
Group Coaching
You are not alone:
Think you are the only one struggling with your seemingly specific stressor? Come to Group Coaching and find that another stepmom is dealing with the same thing.
Group Coaching calls are held once a month and are not recorded.
Extra Benefits!
Member Rewards:
As a member, enjoy an exclusive 20% discount on coaching packages. Also gain access to “quick wins” workshops designed to guide you through specific stepfamily stressors efficiently and effectively.
Annual members get access to a self-paced course “Resentment to Relief: A Stepmom’s Guide to Letting Go”. Upgrade anytime!
The goal is not a perfect blended family. It is relief, clarity, and room to breathe.
With the right support, you can begin to:
Stop treating every stressful moment like proof that you are failing.
Know when to speak up, when to set a boundary, and when to let something go.
Walk into conversations with your partner calmer and clearer.
Take up space in your home without apologizing for having needs.
Feel less alone and less ashamed of the complicated parts of stepmom life.
Build confidence from support and practice, not from pretending nothing bothers you.
What changes when you stop carrying it alone
I know what it feels like to love your partner and still wonder what the hell you signed up for.
In my first year as a stepmom, I Googled “how to get divorced” more times than I would like to admit. I loved my husband. I did not love how powerless, reactive, and unlike myself I felt inside a life I had chosen.
More than ten years later, as a stepmom coach and host of The Stepmom Side Podcast, I know the answer is not becoming quieter, easier, or better at swallowing your feelings. It starts with naming what is happening, understanding what you can control, and getting support while you practice a different way.
I built The Stepmom Side Community so you would have the support I went looking for late at night: honest, practical, private, and completely unsurprised by the thoughts you are afraid to say out loud.
You don’t recognize who you’ve become, and you’re not so sure when that happened.
How it Works
Your Choice
Two options: monthly or annual. Check it out and experience more peace!
the Community
You’ll find Stepmoms who know exactly what you’re talking about. They get it!
The Outcome
You’ll find your voice and get actionable advice you can use today!
Choose the support that fits you:
You will feel at home if...
You want honest support without bashing or fake positivity.
You are ready to focus on what you can control without pretending the rest does not hurt.
You want advice tailored to your situation, not generic advice.
You value a private space away from social media.
You are willing to learn from women whose stepfamilies may look different from yours.
Friendly PSA: This community offers coaching, education, and peer support. It is not crisis care, therapy, legal advice, or a place to attack partners, exes, or children.
YOU FEEL LIKE A TERRIBLE STEPMOM
By joining, you will...
Have a place you can go to for support 24/7.
Find your voice (finally!) as a Stepmom and use it!
Gain the confidence you need to navigate stressors better than ever!
Have a community that will celebrate your wins and carry you through the hard times.
Learn different ways to divide and conquer your fears as a Stepmom.
Gain insight on different strategies on how to handle your stepfamily stressors.
Hey There!
I'm Alicia-your go to Stepmom Coach
I can handle all the stressors that come with being a Stepmom. Nothing ruffles my feathers these days. Well, not for long.
10+ years and counting
In my first year as a Stepmom, I probably Googled “how to get divorced” 784 times. No joke. I struggled. A lot. I’m living proof you don’t have to keep struggling. When I became a Stepmom, I lived in a very “black and white” world-there wasn’t any room for grey and that didn’t bode well for the lack of control I had as a Stepmom. Once I realized (several years in) that all I truly could control was myself, things began to change. I was happier. I was able to let things go. I was able to hold space for the “grey”.
LEARNING TO FOCUS ON THE THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL IS HARD.
The Stepmom Side is where you want to be. It's the community you NEED.
YOU GET VALIDATION
All of those secret "not so nice" feelings you have? You're not the only one. If you've thought it, most likely many others have too. (ME INCLUDED!)
You don't need to hide those feelings here. No need to be ashamed of feeling the way you do. It's completely normal. Don't believe me? Log in and see for yourself!
You'll gain validation knowing you aren't alone in those thoughts.
IT'S LIKE HAVING ME IN YOUR POCKET 24/7
I check in regularly and will respond to posts. If there is specifically something you want to ask me, tag me.
Joining The Stepmom Side is like having a Stepmom Coach 24/7 for a helluva lot less money. You can ask questions and get advice when you need it...wherever you are.
Frequently Asked Questions
Still have questions? Here are answers to our most common questions!
Both have access to the private forum, Live Q&A, weekly Office Hours, monthly Group Coaching, 20% discount on coaching, and access to How to Handle Stepfamily Stressors, Mindset Moments (short 5-15 minute videos to help with mindset), and Guest Speaker presentations.
Annual members get access to a self paced course: "Resentment to Relief: A Stepmom's Guide to Letting Go".
Posting and attending the live calls will certainly help, but some stepmoms benefit from reading other's posts. They read until they feel comfortable to post, and then do more so regularly. If you are on a call, there's no pressure to show up "camera ready"-just come as you are!
Office Hours is a non recorded Zoom call where you can chat with Alicia 1:1 about your latest stressor. Come with a stressor and leave with a plan. The best! Just a heads up, if someone is in the waiting room, I will let you know.
Group Coaching is where you can meet other stepmoms in the community and we work through common stressors together. This call is not recorded.
Completely understand that life happens and sometimes you can't make it to the calls. Office Hours and Group Coaching are not recorded, so if you miss them, you miss them. Live Q&A was created for this reason. If you can't make the Q&A, you can presubmit your question, it'll be answered on the call, and then uploaded to the Live Q&A area.
Great question! Alicia tries to respond daily or within 1-2 business days. Sometimes life happens here, too, or vacation.
Privacy is a huge concern for stepmoms, and it's why so many of us don't post on social media.
The Stepmom Side Community is private and screenshotting posts isn't allowed. You, also, do not have to use your real name. You can use a nickname, if you'd prefer. It's easy to change your name to something different on your profile.
This is a completely valid concern. If you think your partner's ex is in the community, ask me. I can find out. If she's a stepmom, she's here for support. If she's there to do anything but get support, that's grounds for dismissal. There's a strict "no bashing/bullying" rule.
There are stepmoms of all ages with kids of all ages. There will be at least one stepmom in here that can relate to you and what you're going through-regardless of the ages of your stepkids.
1:1 coaching is where you work closely with Alicia in 50 or 90 minute sessions. They are dedicated to you and your stressors only. After each call, you will receive a detailed follow up email with clear direction moving forward.
The Stepmom Side Community has the private forum, live calls, and support through Alicia and other stepmoms. You don't have extended dedicated 1:1 time with Alicia, but still get her support.
You may cancel your membership at any time. Due to the nature of the community-it's online and you have instant access, there are no refunds.
After you join, you're in! Woo hoo! You set up your profile (tell us a bit about you), watch the welcome video, and make the "introduction post" in the community. New members are great to have! See you on the inside!
You do not have to earn your place by becoming quieter, easier, or better at carrying everyone else.
Your next step can be simple: take your seat, bring what feels hard, and let people who get it help you sort it out.
You deserve support while you build a life that feels like yours, too.
Starting at $15.99/month • Private and off social media • Cancel anytime
If you want this to be the year that you *finally* commit to:
Taking control by doing something about it. Feeling confident in your role and speaking up.
Building a life you love-despite all the stress.
Creating and maintaining boundaries. Seeing different ways. Not everything is black and white. Shocking, I know.
Living (and loving) YOUR life.
LET'S THINK ABOUT IT...
Is This Right For You?
You want to minimize stress.
You want your life back.
You’re ready to make changes.
You don’t want hard truths.
You’re not open to other strategies.
You’re not willing to do the work.
So, what are you waiting for?
Let's Do This Thing!
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
IT'S TIME TO TAKE THINGS INTO YOUR OWN HANDS, MY FRIEND.
Select the plan below that works best for you!
LET'S DO THIS
Still on the fence?
You want to be completely sure-completely understandable. Send all the questions you have over and let’s chat!