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Does this sound like you?

You thought it would all work out

You didn’t realize how much being a stepmom would take over your life

You overthink every simple decision now?

Had you known then what you know now, you would have seriously considered running

You feel like your life is on hold until things “calm down”

You feel like your never a priority

You feel like you live under a microscope

You feel like everything is reported back to the other house

You feel like you’re never going to be a priority

Your relationship feels like it will never measure up

You feel like an imposter because you’re not a “real” mom

My Story

When I met my husband, I was 26 and was not looking to “settle down”-or so I thought, but you can’t help who you fall in love with right? Even if the guy is 16 years older. We dated long distance for over 2 years, so I wasn’t thrown into being a stepmom right away. I thought, how bad could it be? I love kids and they love me. When I saw the kids (on the weekends or when our schedules lined up), it was great. My role was similar to that of the “cool cousin/fun aunt”.

Things didn’t really go sideways until I moved in. I quickly realized how “great” it was to have dated long distance-I had my own life, and he had his. Suddenly, my spotless house was no longer attainable with an 8 and 11 running around. The chaos of the kids’ schedules sent my Type A “plan everything out” control freak personality into a tailspin. I was grasping at anything to control. Take it from me, this does NOT work. It, actually, made things worse. The more things (and people!) I tried to control. The worse things got.

The pressure of society to love the kids like they were mine, but the constant reminders that they weren’t. The seemingly constant contact with the ex. Opinions from friends, my family, my husband’s family-EVERYONE had an opinion. I read something online that said, “Unless you’re in the area getting your ass kicked, too, your opinion doesn’t matter.” The advice I didn’t know I needed!

The expectation to show up for everything when I was in my darkest days sent me to google, “what to do if I hate being a stepmom?” There wasn’t much support, so I found myself googling “how to get divorced”. This was not in my “just married” plan, but no one told me there wouldn’t be a honeymoon phase. With kids already in the picture, you go straight to real life.

It took me far too long to admit that we truly needed help. I thought we could just force (pretend?) our way through it. Until we couldn’t and got help. That’s when the healing happened. I didn’t realize I brought baggage to my marriage. I thought I was good-never been married and had no kids. I had figured out how to manage my expectations, get around perfectionism, AND check my ego…but, like, yesterday. I was sabotaging my marriage.

Alicia Krasko Stepmom Coach Stepmom help Stepmom support Stepmom advice
Alicia Krasko Stepmom Coach Stepmom help Stepmom support Stepmom advice

With the stepmoms I’ve coached, I’ve found these to be common struggles as well. Taking a long, hard look in the mirror and recognizing the part I played in my struggle was not something that I realized I needed to do. Of course not…I couldn’t see it with my “in control of everything” personality.  

When I got to the “other side” of being a stepmom-the side where you don’t take things personally, you don’t flip out over a last minute schedule change/text from the ex-I knew that I had to start coaching. I remember feeling like the only choice I had when I was struggling was to run. I didn’t know there was help, but I also wasn’t ready for it. Strong willed? Stubborn? Yeah, just a bit, but now I love helping other stepmoms get to the “other side”. I want you to be happy in your life…and not just when the kids aren’t around. Your mental health is worth more than only living your life 50% of the time.

How I can Help You

I Can Support You in Two Ways:

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The Stepmom Side Community

Where you’ll find a private chat, mindset moments and Quick Wins (helping you with specific stressors), weekly Office Hours, and group coaching 1x month.

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1:1 Coaching

You’ll see the quickest results here and you’ll feel validated, heard, and relieved that someone is finally in your corner. After your 50 minute coaching session, you’ll get a detailed action plan specific to your situation and stressors in an email.

Fun Facts About Me

This or That?

Listed below are some of my favorite things. I will give you two options, hover over them to see which one is the right answer!

Coffee

Tea

Introvert

Extrovert

Have the last word

keep my peace

lots of white space

Packed calendar

Beach

Mountain

Something Lowkey

Adrenaline Junkie

Full time step mom

Part Time Step Mom

Mexican Food

Chinese Food

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