Alicia dives deep into the emotional rollercoaster of comparing yourself to your partner’s ex. Whether it’s scrolling through social media or feeling like you don’t measure up in the stepfamily dynamic, Alicia talks about why comparison is so common (but totally toxic) for stepmoms. She uncovers how comparison affects your sense of identity, belonging, and energy—and shares actionable steps to break the cycle. Spoiler: It starts with being honest with yourself and embracing your unique role in the family.
What You’ll Learn:
– Why comparing yourself to the mom is so common (and totally normal—hello, human nature!).
– The psychological reasons behind comparison and how it impacts your sense of safety and identity.
– Why comparison can be harmful and how it messes with your energy and self-esteem.
– Practical tips to stop the spiral and start owning your place in the family dynamic.
– Alicia’s personal story of overcoming the “shrine house” moment and taking back her power.
Key Takeaways:
1. Comparison doesn’t help you fit in—it fuels self-doubt and resentment.
2. Recognize the strengths and unique qualities you bring to the family (you’re not trying to replace her!).
3. Set boundaries with social media if it’s feeding your comparison cycle—protect your mental health.
4. Speak out loud when you’re comparing yourself—shame thrives in silence!
5. Start curating self-talk that empowers you to feel enough and confident in your role.
Resources Mentioned:
– The Stepmom Side Community – Join a supportive network of stepmoms who get it and get you.
– Coaching with Alicia Krasko – Get personalized support to overcome comparison and step into your role with confidence.
Join the Conversation:
– Follow Alicia on Instagram for more stepmom insights and personal stories.
– Join The Stepmom Side Community for real-time support and advice from other stepmoms.
– Schedule a Coaching Session to work through your mindset spirals and challenges.
If this episode resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself. Share it with a stepmom who could use a little reminder that she’s not alone in the comparison struggle. You’re not a second choice—you’re the real deal.
